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Neither!  I am looking for a deep relationship.  I believe we confuse relationship depth with relationship length.  There are plenty of ongoing relationships that lost their depth a long time ago.  Alternatively, many of us have had a very deep relationship with someone, even though that person could only be in our lives for a season.  Of course the ideal relationship is both deep and long, but planning for length is a fool's errand.  Life happens and somehow every crystal ball I've ever found has failed to warn me of those impending changes.  Planning for depth on the other hand, is very possible.  Therefore I will date for depth, and let the cards fall where they may on the length front.  We could stay together for 2 months, or 2 years, or 20 years, or 200 years.  Although that last one does feel slightly optimistic.  A successful relationship requires only that we make the most of our time together, and each leave the other better than we found them.

No, thank you.  I would rather spend my time, energy, attention and resources on my lover, friends, and family.

I am not particularly political.  I believe there are too many issues for any one person to know about or influence all of them.  Individually, we can make a greater impact on the world by picking a cause to fully support.  Political parties or figures don't count, their issues and policies change weekly.  My chosen cause is Environmentalism.  We only have one Earth to live on, therefore it seems obvious to me that we should try to keep it healthy and stable.  I am a very eco-conscious consumer and donate to charities that help restore our planet whenever possible.

I am currently 25

By day, I'm a Software Developer.  By night, I'm a Home Renovator, Amateur Painter, Board Game Designer, Mocktail Experimenter and Pickleball Champion.

I am currently living in Lansing, Michigan.  You would have to live in the Lansing area, as I am not interested in a virtual relationship.

Tall enough to reach the top shelf!  But not tall enough for the girls chasing a number.  If that's you, I'd recommend going back to the dating apps.  May the odds be ever in your favor!

I am fairly open to the unique features of new lovers.  That being said, there are a few things that would make us incompatible:

Children:  I am not looking to have children, and that extends to inheriting any you may have

Male:  Sorry guys, I just don't swing that way

Smoking or vaping:  I have no desire to watch my girl voluntarily destroy her lungs

Too old or too young:  We all mature at different rates and have different paths through life, so my age range is fairly wide.  However, I am 25, so any new lover would have to be somewhere in her 20's

That's all!  If you made it this far, you've got a shot!

You can't, I don't have social media!  There are so many better things to do out here in the real world!

If the 48-Hour Dating System will not work for you for reasons outside of your control, we can make a work around.  For example, if your work schedule changes each week, we can move the Date Nights to accommodate that.  If you are going on a two-week trip, we can pause for those 2 weeks.  

If, however, you are too busy or disorganized to set aside 1 night a week and write a letter, I am not the guy for you.  Scheduling isn't that hard and if you don't have the time to follow the 48-Hour Dating System, you also won't have the time for the kind of relationship I'm looking to build.

Of course it's real!  I can't believe this one is even a question.  This is 100% real, 100% serious and 0% social experiment.  Social experimentation disgusts me.  Other people's lives and emotions are not there for anyone to play with or extract data from.  I would never do that to someone.

P.S.  It's also not a scam.  Also, not AI.  It's unfortunate that I have to clarify these things.  I'm a bold man searching for a compatible lover and doing so his own way.  No more, no less.