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Neither!  I am looking for a deep relationship.  I believe we confuse relationship depth with relationship length.  There are plenty of ongoing relationships that lost their depth a long time ago.  Alternatively, many of us have had a very deep relationship with someone, even though that person could only be in our lives for a season.  Of course the ideal relationship is both deep and long, but planning for length is a fool's errand.  Life happens and somehow every crystal ball I've ever found has failed to warn me of those impending changes.  Planning for depth on the other hand, is very possible.  Therefore I will date for depth, and let the cards fall where they may on the length front.  We may stay together for 2 months, or 2 years, or 20 years, or 200 years.  Although that last one does feel slightly optimistic.  A successful relationship requires only that we make the most of our time together, and each leave the other better than we found them.

No, thank you.  I would rather spend my time, energy, attention and resources on my lover, friends, and family.

I am not particularly political.  I believe there are too many issues for any one person to know about or influence all of them.  Individually, we can make a greater impact on the world by picking a cause to fully support.  Political parties or figures don't count, their issues and policies change weekly.  My chosen cause is Environmentalism.  We only have one Earth to live on, therefore it seems obvious to me that we should try to keep it healthy and stable.  I am a very eco-conscious consumer and donate to charities that help restore our planet whenever possible.

No, I find my solace in midnight stars, winter fires, and flowing rivers instead. I don't mind if you are religious though!

I am currently 25

By day, I'm a Software Developer.  By night, I'm a Home Renovator, Amateur Painter, Board Game Designer, Mocktail Experimenter and Pickleball Champion.

I am currently living in Lansing, Michigan.  You would have to live in the Lansing area, as I am not interested in a virtual relationship.

If the 48-Hour Dating System will not work for you for reasons outside of your control, we can make a work around.  For example, if your work schedule changes each week, we can move the Date Nights to accommodate that.  If you are going on a two-week trip, we can pause for those 2 weeks.  

If, however, you are too busy or disorganized to set aside 1 night a week and write a letter, I am not the guy for you.  Scheduling isn't that hard and if you don't have the time to follow the 48-Hour Dating System, you also won't have the time for the kind of relationship I'm looking to build.

Of course it's real!  I can't believe this one is even a question.  This is 100% real, 100% serious and 0% social experiment.  Other people's lives and emotions are not there for anyone to play with or extract data from.  I would never do that to someone.

P.S.  It's also not a scam.  Also, not AI.  It's unfortunate that I have to clarify these things.  I'm a bold man searching for a compatible lover and doing so his own way.  No more, no less.

I have found that I am most fulfilled when taking care of a good girl.  Each relationship is different and these are not requirements, but here are a few examples of experiences that previous lovers have enjoyed:

• Receiving treats and praise for all accomplishments, big and small

• Good Morning and Good Night texts/calls

• Fun weekend trips

• Having outfits picked out

• Being bathed and dressed

• Having hair brushed

• General Emotional Support (obviously)

That may seem like a lot of extra work, and that's because it is!  My relationship style does require more effort and I'm alright with that.  The increased intimacy and connection that comes from such effort is worth it as long as I can find the right girl!

I have been in 3 relationships.  They were all great, but fell apart after we had to go long-distance.  Safe to say I've learned my lesson on that front!

I am fairly open to the unique features of new lovers.  That being said, there are a few things that would make us incompatible:

Children:  I am not looking to have children, and that extends to inheriting any you may have

Male:  Sorry guys, I just don't swing that way

Smoking or vaping:  I have no desire to watch my girl voluntarily destroy her lungs

Too old or too young:  We all mature at different rates and have different paths through life.  Ideally, I am looking for someone 21-27

Financial irresponsibility: I am a very financially responsible person who saves and invests whenever possible.  Student loans are one thing, but large amounts of unnecessary debt would make us incompatible.  I personally don't have any debt besides my mortgage and will be keeping it that way!

That's all!  If you made it this far, you've got a shot!

I am 5'7", and glad for it!  Did you know there's a reason most men fall in the 5'6"-5'11" range?  It's because those are the healthiest heights for us!  Shorter folks tend to have more cardiovascular issues and while increased height does provide some extra protection against those particular conditions, taller folks tend to have more issues across the board.  Taller folks are especially more prone to nerve issues, circulatory issues, and cancers of all kinds.  Turns out there is a Goldilocks Zone for height and I'm glad to be in it.  I'll take a longer, healthier life over an artificial beauty standard any day!

Source Paper: journals.plos.org/plosgenetics/article?id=10.1371/journal.pgen.1010193  

Source Paper explained in English: www.research.va.gov/currents/0622-Height-may-be-risk-factor-for-multiple-health-conditions.cfm 

Thankfully, no!  I am fully healthy and ready to go!

You can't, I don't have social media!  There are so many better things to do out here in the real world!

I know my teeth aren't perfectly straight.  They are slightly crooked, but not nearly enough to actually interfere with anything.  Did you know, after your teeth are straightened, you still have to wear a retainer every night to keep them in their new position?  I do not want to spend the rest of my life fighting my own body or dealing with tight, aching teeth on the occasional night I forget to use the retainer.  Especially since my teeth are otherwise clean, strong and healthy so all of that work would just be for an artificial beauty standard!  No, thank you.

Besides, having one visible imperfection is kind of nice!  It gives my look a bit of unique character and keeps the perfectionists at bay.