The 48 Hour Dating System
Because Dating Doesn't Have To Be Hard
Clue: Red Is The Rose
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The 48 Hour Dating System involves 10 dates across 7 weeks. It has 2 phases. The first phase is going from strangers to friends. The second phase is going from friends to lovers. The specifics of each phase are detailed below, along with a guide to understanding the system as a whole and what to expect beyond date 10!
The Phases
Phase 1: Becoming Friends
Phase 1 is all about getting to know each other without romantic pressure. It takes time for us to feel comfortable around a brand new person. Starting off with romance leads to a collection of mixed signals. Phase 1 will be the first 24 hours we spend together, which takes around 5 dates, with each being 4-5 hours long. Physical contact will be limited to hugs and handshakes. Texting will be limited to scheduling dates. We will each pay for our own items. We'll simply get to know each other and if all goes well, we'll move on to Phase 2!
Phase 2: Becoming Lovers
Phase 2 is all about designing a romantic relationship that excites both of us. Whatever you want to see, hear, feel, or experience in a relationship, this is the time to bring it up. Phase 2 will be the second 24 hours we spend together, which takes the remaining 5 dates. Physical contact will be romantic, including but not limited to kisses and cuddles. Texting and/or calling routines will be designed together. I will pay for both of us. We'll intentionally design our relationship to fit each of our unique features, needs, wants and lives!
Understanding the System as a Whole
Step 1: Select a Date Night
Find a Date Night that works for both of us. This will be our scheduled Date Night every week, as long as both of us want to continue dating.
Example: Ella selects Thursday Night as her Date Night
Step 2: Spontaneous Dates
During the 7 weeks, there will be 3 additional Spontaneous Dates that can be scheduled outside of the normal Date Night. These can be scheduled at any time, assuming both of us are available.
Example: Ella schedules 3 additional dates outside of her normal Date Night (shown in Green)
Step 3: Writing Letters
On each of the normal Date Nights, except the first, we will exchange 1-page hand-written letters. By their nature, dates involve sharing and receiving a lot of information. After all, you're learning all about a completely new person! These letters are places to reflect on that information and express praise, gratitude, concerns, requests, personal stories, and anything else you may want to share. Letters are not used on Spontaneous Dates.
Step 4: Phase 1 Ends
Once we cross the 24-hour mark, Phase 1 will end and we will each decide if we want to continue on to Phase 2
Example: Ella's Phase 1 is circled in Red. Phase 2 is circled in Blue
Step 5: Phase 2 Ends
Once we cross the 48-hour mark, Phase 2 will end and we will decide if we want to begin an exclusive relationship or not. A few broad strokes on what you should expect to give and receive if we become exclusive are below, though the exact details will be created together during Phase 2, since each relationship is unique.
Going Exclusive: What to Expect
What you would receive:
Praise
Personal Care
Affection
Surprise Treats
Support for your Dreams
What you would give:
Trust
Appreciation
Affection
Helpful Spirit
Clever Game Night Partner
Hey now, no peeking!
Half the fun is watching the pieces fall into place as our hands are revealed. Schedule your first Date Night below to play your hand and find out what's in mine!
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